PSYCHOTHERAPY FOR SEXUAL DYSFUNCTIONS

BY

R.MANOJ

CONSULTANT CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST

Foundation Dedicated for Research Education and Awareness of Mental Health (DREAMH)

Ph: 91-044 -22532176, Mobile: 9444112608

E mail: rmanojcp@gmail.com

 

INTRODUCTION

          Discussions about sex and sexual problems have always been shrouded by secrecy. Even though the ancient Indian culture and literature has provided adequate provision to gain the appropriate knowledge, in the modern India there is still a lot of taboo associated with seeking knowledge about sex and help regarding sexual problems.

           Estimates show that up to 50% of couples experience sexual difficulties at some point in their lives of which nearly 80% of the problems are psychological. This may be the psychological problems experienced by one or both the partners, the problems in interpersonal marital relationships and other emotional problems which also have a secondary effect on the sexual life.

 CLASSIFICATION

Sexual Disorders may be divided into three broad categories:

ØSexual Dysfunction

ØDisorder of Sexual Preference (Paraphilias)

ØGender Identity Disorders Based on the primary etiology it 

    may be categorized as

ØPsychological

ØPsycho-physiological

ØPhysio-psychological

 Psycho-sexual dysfunctions are those dysfunctions that occur

ØIn spite of the patient having adequate sexual physiological fitness

ØEven when he/she is devoid of any physical illness that can contribute 

    to sexual dysfunction

ØDue to Psychogenic factors that develop secondary to physical 

   condition or illness or treatments that does not contribute to sexual 

   dysfunction

Psycho sexual dysfunctions include

ØImpairment of normal sexual interest, enjoyment.

Øloss of pleasure in sexual activity

ØAvoiding or being afraid of sex.

 ØInability participate in a sexual relationship as he/she would wish

ØInability to perform satisfactorily

ØInability to get desired orgasm at the desired time

ØFeeling intense negative emotions when touched, such as fear, guilt, or nausea.

ØHaving difficulty with arousal and feeling the sensation.

ØFeeling emotionally distant or not present during sex.

ØHaving disturbing and intrusive thoughts and fantasies, that interfere with performance.

ØEngaging in compulsive or inappropriate sexual behaviors to compensate 

   sexual inadequacy

ØHaving difficulty establishing or maintaining an intimate relationship

 

            Most cases of sexual dysfunction arise from a combination of emotional, Psychological, interpersonal relationship and cultural factors.

Emotional factors:

ØInability to experience and express positive emotions

ØFear of failure, exacerbated by pressure to perform,

ØOver concern about pleasing one's partner

ØFeelings of embarrassment or awkwardness

ØFear of performance, intimacy and excitement

ØFear of being perceived as sexually weak or vulnerable

ØWorries about rejection and criticisms

ØConscious or unconscious emotions of helplessness

ØSuppressed emotions of anger or frustrations

ØHabituated dependence negative emotions to gain advantage in relationships

ØFears of impregnation, pregnancy, diseases.

ØEmotional trauma associated with past sexual experiences

 Psychological factors

ØType A personality

ØBody image concerns

ØHigh expectations

ØLow self esteem

ØDoubt and guilt harbored about sexual feelings or behavior.

ØA tendency to erect defenses against erotic pleasure

ØPerformance anxiety

ØCritical thoughts leading to monitoring of one’s own sexual responses

ØExcessive distractions or psychic preoccupation that precludes or happens during sexual activity

ØPsychological conflicts and Stressors and inability to manage them appropriately.

ØInhibitions about nakedness and displaying ones body

 Relationship Factors

ØNormal expression of impulses being inhibited through excessive shyness

   or harboring

ØDifferences in sexual needs and the refusal of partners to respond

ØFailure Difficulties to communicate openly and without guilt and defensiveness about feelings, 

   wishes and responses

ØAvoidance of or failure to engage in sexual behavior which is exciting and stimulating to both partners

Ølack of attraction towards a partner

Øissues of trust, and commitment

Ødifficulty with authority and concerns about being dominated

ØConflicts in relationships

ØFears of ostracization by or discrimination

 Socio - Cultural Factors

ØLack of knowledge regarding sexual life

ØMisinformation ascribed by traditional healers, to “loss of semen”.

ØCultural beliefs that contribute to anxiety or guilt, based on a common attitude that sex is shameful, 

    dirty or sinful.

ØMyths associated with gender roles, age and appearance or performance expectations.

ØConflicts regarding normal recurring sexual feelings especially during adolescence and 

    parental / social sanctions against sexual enjoyment

ØMyths associated with masturbation, nocturnal emission, sex with elderly women etc

ØStrong social stigma of open discussion on sexual matters, expression of sexual knowledge etc

ØReluctance to discuss and preference to be discreet and secretive about sex life

     Psychotherapy

        Psycho-sexual case history taking

Areas covered should include:

ØThe exact nature of dysfunction in relation to the phases of the sexual cycle and what conditions 

    produce or reduce it.

ØDuration of the problem.

ØPast and current sexual experiences

ØRecent stress or adjustment difficulties

ØVariation with different settings, partners, erotic fantasies

Øthe level of trust, understanding, love and commitment with the partner/spouse

ØIndividual attitudes to coital frequency, birth control, having children, etc.

ØThe existence of other psychological problems

ØThe existence of a psychiatric disorders

ØA concomitant medical disorder

ØConsumption of drugs or alcohol

 

Psychometry

          Detailed psychological assessment is done to identify etiology of the problem. Psychometric tools and projective tests are used to evaluate

Ø the nature of the couples’ relationship

ØPersonality

ØThe conscious and unconscious desires, needs, drives, conflicts, passions etc on the intensity

ØThe incongruence between the conscious and unconscious needs, drives and motives

ØCo-morbid psychological problems or psychiatric disorders

ØAreas and intensity of psychological conflicts, difficulties or stress.

ØThe motivation level, Communication skills and ability to resolve conflicts.

 Treatment

          The treatment programs are individually tailored based on principles of various psychological approaches. These are often incorporated parallely in the initial phase and concurrently as the treatment proceeds.

                    The psychotherapeutic treatment involves treatment of the four major domains

ØThe Behavioral domain

ØThe interpersonal domain

ØThe emotional domain

ØThe cognition domain

 Behavioral domain: Altering the sexual activity and associated behavior

            This is done by combining the Behavioral and Masters & Johnson sex therapy techniques. The focus is on training the patients in effective sexual activities and behavioral techniques that can aid in better participation.  The steps involve

ØTraining in anxiety control techniques such as progressive relaxation, controlled breathing etc

ØTraining in stress inoculation techniques for persons who find stress unmanageable

ØCovert sensitization to sexual needs  and pleasures

ØGuided Self exploration of the stimulating physical, psychological and environmental factors

    ¯Physical factors by self stimulation

    ¯Psychological and environmental factors by fantasizing

ØThe partners physically exposing to each other their physique.

ØHeightening sensory awareness to sight, touch and smell.

ØSensate focus in which the partners focus on mutual pleasuring by massage, caressing  etc.

ØCreating arousal by touching the appropriate erogenous points.

ØFondling and caressing the genitals.

ØSpecific techniques for specific dysfunctions such as.

    ¯The stop-start technique .

    ¯Squeeze technique .

    ¯Graduated dilatation of the vaginal path with the fingers or prescribed dilators .

ØNon intrusive penetration.

ØAltering the time and environment to understand the most stimulating and satisfying ones

   Penetration in various postures to understand the most satisfying ones.

ØFull unbound sexual intercourse.

 Interpersonal Domain

 

          The aim is to establish proper verbal, nonverbal and sexual communication between partners

ØTraining in appropriate verbal and nonverbal communication techniques

ØFacilitating the establishment of social ties with the opposite sex using social skills training.

ØDiscussing their sexual needs, stimulating environments, fantasies etc

ØExpression of mutual needs and establishing the goal at various stages.

ØCommunicating the positive emotions that the partners experience for each other

ØCommunicating the negative emotions in an appropriate unoffending way without suppressing

    or masking

ØInvolving in positive talks to overcome the misperceptions and develop trust

Øproviding permission or reassurance whenever deemed necessary.

ØUsing problem solving and consensus approach to solve the conflicts

ØUsing humor whenever deemed appropriate

 

Emotional domain: Altering the emotional constructs

           Emotional constructs are enduring emotional structures built by a systematic repeated combination of felt, perceived and expressed emotions which mutually interchange and determine a person’s emotional reaction to an event or a domain

Love- Possession - Envy

Helplessness - Fear - Anger

The steps involved are

ØIdentification of the dysfunctional emotional constructs

ØVentilation of the suppressed emotions associated with past experiences

ØUnderstanding the incongruence between the felt, perceived and expressed emotions

ØLearning to express positive and negative emotions in an   acceptable way pertaining to

   the environment

ØReducing the incongruence by using these methods to express the felt emotions in an appropriate manner

ØGeneralization to various related areas

 Cognition domain: cognitive restructuring

                    Treating the cognitive area involves changing cognitive distortions by changing the associated negative schemas or dysfunctional beliefs using cognitive behavior therapy which uses systematic approach of collecting evidences and implementing alternate positive beliefs. Some such negative beliefs are

ØIts difficult to enjoy sex unless one is physically strong, good looking, intelligent and successful

ØIf I don’t do well all the time my partner will not respect me

ØMy value as person depends on what others think of my sexual capacity

ØIf my partner disagrees it means that he/she does not like me

ØI am always responsible if my partner is not satisfied

ØI have failed once and will fail every time

ØI should do every activity myself or vice versa

ØIf I do not act correctly I will be ridiculed and my position will be threatened

ØI can have healthy/ happy life only if I avoid sex

ØThe sex life is full of risks and dangers which I cannot cope with

          The other area of cognitive restructuring is altering the goals of sexual relationships from - involving in coitus, achieving orgasm, satisfying the partner, reproduction, emotional intimacy & involvement, having a thrilling experience, a work profile of marriage, ventilating the erotic energy and stress reduction  to just enjoying the pleasure of the process.

 

Conclusion

          Medical practitioners are still perceived as the most appropriate people to turn to for advice.

          The onus rests on the medical practitioners to prepare the patients presenting with psychosexual problems to psychological interventions.

          When psycho-sexual disorders are detected the patient should be referred to a competent psychologist for specialized evaluation and psychotherapy.

          Avoiding the dichotomous paradigm of sexual dysfunction being either organic or psychogenic or holding the assumption that organic factors necessarily take precedence over psychosocial factors or vice versa and adopting a multimodal approach of treatment can be the most beneficial treatment for any patient.